I loved the reading “Mirroring by Lucy Grealy. I found it very enjoyable to read and a very touching story. I also found that although most of us have never gone through an experience so unbearable, it still was very relate able on a much lower level. For example, when she says “Chemotherapy was a nightmare and I wanted it to stop; I didn’t want to be brave anymore. Yet I had frown so used to defining myself as “brave” that the thought of losing this sense of myself was even more terrifying.”(page 78) Later on in the reading, she goes on to say how she was so ashamed by her face and she could never admit how much the constant change affected her. (page 84) She would just tell people how she had gotten used to the change, even though it was killing her, just to keep her image of bravery. This can be so relate able at times. So many times I find myself continuing to do things, even if I don’t want to, just because it is how I am known and I am afraid to change the way people think of me. I think we forget to realize that its okay to have things bother you. Its okay to show what you really feel. Its okay to cry and show that you need someone to help you be strong. I was always told that it’s okay to expect imperfection. Its not setting your standards lower, its being real.
I also found very relate able that the little things that people tell us defines us can really end up making us who we are not. For example, all the people she knew kept telling her to be brave and not cry over and over. To them, it may not really have been so meaningful these words. They were probably trying to just find words to comfort her. But to her, it kept her from reacting the real way she wanted to react. Even though in my eyes she couldn’t be more brave for doing all the things she does, she still had to keep herself from crying because of what everyone is telling her. I find this happens in everyday life as well. People are constantly trying to define our image, when our image doesn’t even have to be constant. People change every day. One day we are brave, one day we need someones bravery to get us through the day. Sometimes I feel that we all forget that we are only humans and don’t always have to be strong.